Imagine this: Your friend has just been dumped by her long-term significant other. She comes to you with an outpouring of tears and in a state of despair. In that moment, all you want is for her to feel better, so you reassure her that everything will be okay and give her a pep talk that she’ll find someone better and deserving of her love.
Or maybe this: A coworker shows up to work and is not his usual cheerful and chatty self. He is visibly distracted and when you ask him what’s wrong, he explains that his mom has just been diagnosed with a terminal illness with only a few months left to live. You observe that he looks numb and disengaged, and it starts to feel uncomfortable. You offer a story of when your family faced an illness, and how everyone bonded and grew closer together through it.
Sounds pretty normal, right? Let me tell you why this doesn’t work.
Why Saving Face Doesn’t Work: 3 Ways to Combat Mental Health Stigma for Asian Americans
Asians don’t go to therapy. Why would I pay a stranger to listen to me share about my feelings? I can figure things out on my own. When things are really bad then I’ll go talk to someone.
I often hear these statements in different pockets of Asian American communities. I’ve spoken with many people about the importance of therapy, and have often found that “mental health” is an unfamiliar term for many Asian Americans. Why is this so?